Take a Breath (Maybe Two)



Some days I find it harder to take a step back and breathe. I have moments in which I become so overwhelmed with myself, I don't know how to cope. And yes, I've actually cried a couple of times.
I put a lot on my plate. To some people, it may not seem like much. To me, it feels like an obnoxious headache.

Be sure to write.

You should really draw!

You need to practice the ukulele like you promised yourself you would!

It seems like I am not enjoying myself while doing the things that I love to do because I am so pressured in making sure that I actually do them.

What am I doing wrong?


Here's the thing: I love being productive. I love getting stuff done. But sometimes, it's to the point that it is almost making me unproductive. Every morning, I set myself up for failure. I mentally prep myself by saying "Oh, I'm going to get so much done today." But it turns out to be the opposite- or so it feels.

Busy is not productive! (As I have learned from the lovely Abbiee)


How am I able to stop being just busy and start being progressive? This is a thought that enters my mind throughout various times in the day and I'm not gonna lie... it stresses me out, yo. 

I don't know how to separate fun time and school time. As I am writing this post, I also have my essay tab opened (now I closed it because it was bothering me). You see, I love to multitask. And there's nothing wrong with it! But it's nice to separate things that are work and things that should be fun. That way, you have a reward system. WHICH IS SOMETHING I NEED.

Sometimes I feel like I need to worry about things that are important because, to me, they feel like they are sooo important, I can't go a second without worrying about them. But hey, that's actually not the case.


Worrying is like a rocking chair; it gives you something to do but doesn't get you anywhere.


This is a quote my grandmother always kept on the front of her refrigerator. It's something I need to remind myself and others as well. If you can't fix something or do something right away, there's no sense in worrying about it.

This weekend I decided not to do a to-do list (a physical one, anyways) and see how it works for me. I'm taking a step back to catch my breath. I need it. You need it. We all do. I mean, isn't that how we, you know, live?

Thank you for listening to me vent.
xx Kenzie

Talk to me!

How can I NOT overwhelm myself? Do you have any tips on destressing? HOW DO YOU COPE WITH THIS SELF INFLICTED PAIN?!





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  1. Unfortunately, I don't have any tips for you. I deal with the same problem and am still just trying to figure out life. I feel like the goals I put for myself are overwhelming and they weigh on me.

    Something that has recently helped me (and by recent I mean literally last night) was stretching. I stretched and took many breaths. It helped me sleep. I haven't been feeling like I've slept well for a few weeks now. Stretching last night helped me and I feel much better this morning.

    I guess that would be my tip, though I'm not sure how helpful it is.
    My favorite quote from a book I read is this. "Stress is an enemy. It confuses us and makes us question ourselves."

    I hope you're able to get through this and feel better soon. :D

    ~Ivie
    iviewrites.blogspot.com

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    1. That is a wonderful tip, Ivie! Actually, I've heard that stretching and doing yoga is a huge stress reliever! I just never thought to try it whenever I feel overwhelmed. There is a lot of advice I give when I should be actually using it. o.O

      Even though I hope that you feel better too, I am so glad that I am not the only one who feels these emotions. Regardless of whatever it is that you are feeling, always know that you are never alone. <3

      I love that quote and I will continue to remember it the next time I feel myself getting overwhelmed. :) Thank you so much for reading!

      xx Kenzie

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  2. The worry rocking chair quote is so wise! This is something I've struggled with, too - trying to make sure I get everything on my to-do list done (especially writing) while not really enjoying it. That was honestly what my whole summer was like, and it zaps the creative joy right out of you! I would recommend stepping away from things that are stressing you (for me, it can be the Internet) and get out in nature. Take a walk or run, swim, or grab an ice cream cone with friends. Go on a late night drive or buy new shoes at Target. Read your Bible. Little unplanned adventures help combat the stress. :) <3

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    1. That is exactly how I feel and it really STINKS. Oh my goodness, I couldn't agree more! Those were very helpful, Erin, and I think it is important that we all indulge in ourselves from time to time. Whenever I feel like my brain might explode (graphic but seemingly related), I let myself take a break and go for a walk. It allows me to forget about time for a little bit and step away from everything.

      I'm definitely going to have to try some unplanned adventures more often. <3 Thank you so much for reading and for those helpful times. :)

      xx Kenzie

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  3. No tips here... I'm EXACTLY the same way. XD Abbiee inspired me too, though, to begin putting away my to-do list every evening at 6pm. It felt SO counter-productive at first, but having time to paint or read or do nothing at night is REALLY nice. Plus, I'm a literal grandma and I go to bed between 8 and 9, so I wouldn't have had time to get much more done anyway!

    Hailey
    www.haileyhudson.wordpress.com

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    1. Oh my goodness, I TOTALLY need to try that. Hehe, I'm kinda the opposite. I tend to stay up late, which is something I need to work on changing. Maybe I will try that but change it to 8 or 9 just to start out with. ;)

      Thank you for reading and sharing! <3

      xx Kenzie

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  4. I FEEL LIKE THIS POST WAS FREAKING WRITTEN FOR ME. WAS IT WRITTEN FOR ME???? ARE YOU ACTUALLY MY TWIN?????? this is so much what I've been dealing with lately...I should really practice what I preach more often *nervous laughter* (BTW THANK YOU FOR THE SHOUTOUT BEAUTIFUL <3) because I definitely overcommit to WAYYYY to many things and then it becomes that busy syndrome all over again... why do I do this to myself??? I WILL NEVER KNOW.

    I LOVE THAT QUOTE ABOUT THE ROCKING CHAIR. Like, whoa. Such truth. :') I've been trying to pick one day each week that I don't have a to-do list because THAT IS REALLY NOURISHING. And you've just inspired me to give it another shot. I NEED TO BE MORE STRICT ABOUT NOT BEING STRICT HAHAHAHA :'''') the struggle is real.

    YOU'RE NOT ALONE. *hugs*

    rock on,
    abbiee

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    1. I don't know if I should be glad that you have been dealing with this same struggle and I am not the only one OR terrified BECAUSE NOOOO, ABBIE ALWAYS KNOWS WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!!

      ANYWHO. YES, I RELATE TO THAT SO MUCH LIKE YOU HAVE NO IDEA. I feel busy but unproductive and it is a curse I tell you. I think we need to hunt down a cure ASAP and then eat some pizza because why not?

      Eeep, I am so happy you enjoyed the quote! I feel like it can apply to everyone. <3 Oh my gosh, I need to try that out! I have, like, an overall to-do list but maybe I need to take what is on there and apply the tasks to each day throughout the week. Though, IT'S HARD WHEN YOUR LIFE IS SO DARN UNPREDICTABLE. Why we do this to ourselves, I may never know.

      Thank you so much for reading and for all your sweet words. I AM SO GLAD I AM NOT IN THIS ALONE. We shall save each other! *insert Pirates music here*

      xx Kenzie

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  5. I relate to this so much! And I really don't have any tips... lately, I've been trying really hard not to *think* about all the things I want to do, but to just slowly peg away at *doing* different little things that matter to me. I still get overwhelmed by how much I need to do, and I still totally procrastinate a lot of things that I really should be doing. But sometimes little actions like, aging some paper for fun, or taking a few days to paint more than normal, can help my mental state a lot.
    Xx nina

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    1. Actually, you know what, sometimes I have realized that doing those extra things that I enjoy, do help keep me productive- or so it feels. I know they say I should prioritize my times, but it almost feels like if I do fun stuff first- like writing or blogging- then schoolwork, I feel less weight on my shoulders.

      Thank you so much for reading, Nina. I really am going to try that very helpful tip more often. <3 And you should as well.

      xx Kenzie

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  6. WHY IS IT SO EASY TO GET OVERWHELMED?? I've been doing pretty badly with this recently, although I've been getting better over the last couple days. I just have to keep reminding myself that it's not the end of the world if I'm not productive. We just need to keep breathing. <3

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    1. I DON'T KNOWWWW. LIKE I'LL BE FINE ONE SECOND AND THEN THE NEXT, *BOOM* A BIG BALL OF OVERWHELMINGNESS. Yesss, my point exactly. <3 You got this, Grace. We can get over this together. ^-^

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting. <3

      xx Kenzie

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  7. YES YES YES TO THIS POST. Like, did you write this post FOR ME? xD Haha, this is literally my life though. I procrastinate on pretty much everything, and I haven't really realized until recently how bad it is. I love your idea about not writing a physical to-do list and just living life...I should try it sometime :D
    ALSO THAT QUOTE. YES, yes yes. Worry is the thief of joy (also comparison but whatever xD) I loved this post, Kenzie <3

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    1. HEHEHE, MAYBE I DID. ;) BUT I AM SO HAPPY YOU RELATED TO THIS AND WE ARE NOT ALONE. <3 I totally know what you mean. Isn't it annoying? I hope that works for you! :)

      DUDE. THANK YOU FOR SHARING THAT QUOTE. I should really start putting these up on my pinboard. Thank you so much, Autumn. <3 I always appreciate your lovely words.

      xx Kenzie

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xx Kenzie